Every human being is at times in need of assistance. On the other hand everyone gets the chance to help someone else.
But why do people actually help one another?
Here are some stereotypes of the motives people have for helping:
- Some people have the innate ability to help others. They feel the destined to put others first and themselves last but these people are a clear minority. These people usually find their careers in helping people in charities or churches etc. These people can even be abused for their gullibility.
- Most people feel positive about helping others when it’s convenient to them. These people will usually give directions when asked and help their friends like normal people do. These people are willing to help if it isn’t a major inconvenience to them.
- Some people see helping others as the path to personal gain. Helping someone now might leave them in gratitude for the future. These people are willing to help if they consider the future gains bigger than the current losses.
What is the right way to help people?
I will argue that the right way is the one that makes both the helper and the receiver happy. Everyone should go through the trouble of thinking what motivates them in helping others. When you know that it’s easier to start analyzing the way you behave when asked to help someone.
So whatever is your motive for helping, you should always do it from your own standpoint. Doing it for anything else will eventually backfire. This is also the reason why helping is so poorly valued in our society.
You have to be a bit of an idealist to become an entrepreneur
Most people tend to think realistically or want to reason why they aren’t capable of starting a business. Others take the risk. But do people become entrepreneurs for the wrong reasons? When thinking about starting a business people get stuck to obvious barriers.
What if I can’t get any customers?
If you can focus your resources on the things you like, the only possible outcome is that you become good at what you do. This can’t be ignored by the customers. People prefer services from professionals. But more importantly, people want to buy services from people who love what they do.
I need steady money to pay for my expenses
The steady money is not a real need. People think they need money to maintain a quality of living. You have to understand that quality of living isn’t about money. It is about your happiness and the happiness of people around you. And that can’t be bought.
I don’t like the extra paperwork
None of this matters if you set your target high enough. Think of the energy you have for your job if you can concentrate on the things you like. There really are people who love accounting. If you outsource your accounting you’re helping two people to be happy.
Unselfish giving is one of the most rewarding things a person can do
I’ve never been a huge giver myself but lately I’ve noticed that I get absolutely the best kicks out of helping someone. And giving doesn’t need to cost anything. Sharing your knowledge is the key.
Giving isn’t just limited to people. Companies can also get the benefit and pleasure of giving and helping people. Miikka Leinonen has authored a book called Strategy of Giving. Loyal to its name it can be downloaded free of charge. The book tells us how giving can be an integral part of a company’s strategy building process. In contrast, people can use generosity to build their character.
How can I benefit from giving?
People can choose to implement the strategy of giving in their own lives. If you’re sincere in what you do, you will be noticed in a positive way.
A friend of mine posted a wonderful example of how to change your life for better:
- Whenever you do something, try to think if you do it for yourself of for others.
- If it’s more for others, you get one point (+1).
- You could even mark the point on your list of good ideas every time you get one.
Here’s one way to play the game we call life. Try increasing your score by one each day and you’ll be a saint by the end of the year.