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Love or duty – Day 136/139

Under the last four months I’ve been preaching about doing only the stuff that makes sense to yourself. Now, I have to admit I haven’t been entirely accurate about this.

There are two positive exceptions to doing stuff you hate.

  1. Duty. Sometimes things just don’t make sense to you and still you have to do them. I spent several hours yesterday and today trying to compensate for a school work I failed earlier this spring. I don’t usually fail at school so the humiliation doubled the torture of having to do it again. Good stuff for building your character, when you think your character needs some building.
  2. Love. Doing things out of love is probably the best way to do them. The best part here is that you can never go wrong with doing something just for others. I wouldn’t have managed my school work if it wasn’t for my wife who helped me to do it. She didn’t like it either but still did it just out of love. Small things can have a big impact.

So when duty calls, get it over with. When love calls, answer it.

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The most important thing – Day 126/139

Today’s guest blogger is Jouni Riuttanen, VP sales at FinderBase.com.

I wrote about sales vs. games vs. sports in my previous entry and emphasized the importance of winning in sales. Winning is a key thing is sales, but even more important things do exist.

The most important thing is love.

You will gain happiness by doing things that you love most. But sometimes people do things that makes them unhappy because they think that they have to do it. I like sales, but I love my family. It is quite difficult to combine these two, since I just can’t be with my family and meet my customers at the same time.

Before one should go and do everything to win in sales, one should think is the sales the most important thing in life. This is also a thing to remember in games and sports. Typically you also need some luck to win in sales, games or sports, but you will end up feeling unlucky if you lose the things that you love most.

Remember, do it with love.

5 lessons in love and business – Day 54/139

The more time I spend developing my own business the more similarities I see in it to my personal life.

Romantic relationships and business life have a lot in common.

I want to present here five lessons that I’ve learned both from love and from my career in entrepreneurship:

  1. Passion. I consider passion to be the number one success factor for both business and love. Some philosopher might say love is what is left when the passion drains from a relationship. I will argue that passion is a crucial component of love. Nobody can be passionate about everything but everybody can find their passion both in love and in business life.
  2. Purpose. In business we call the purpose a goal, a vision, a mission or a strategy. In a relationship you and your partner are the “business”. You have to have the same goals in life. When you can trust that the other person is pursuing the same goals and backs you up in your personal decisions, there is a huge potential for success.
  3. Openness. Both the passion and the purpose come through open discussion. There is no other way. Verbal communication has a very similar role also in business life. A functioning professional organization is based on openness. Companies don’t achieve anything by themselves, it’s the people who make the success through communication.
  4. Constant learning. Without learning there is only one way and that way is failure. In a healthy relationship you can learn new things about your partner after 50 years of marriage. The same goes for companies. A professional organization should keep learning faster than its competitors to succeed. Again it’s the people who learn, organization only facilitates their learning.
  5. Conflict resolution. No relationship or business is made without conflict. Conflict is inevitable but can be avoided through the process of learning and through openness. Bad handling of conflicts can deteriorate even a successful company or a relationship. The best way to handle a conflict is to do it firmly, friendly and immediately.

So whether you want to success in business or in love, keep these factors in mind. And let me know if there is something you’d like to add to the list.